What Choice Do I Have?

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Hello Friend,

Victimhhood is an unhealthy pattern that’s often hard to break, because an individual get so accustomed to being the victim. It’s the easier; softer way to live for many people. The truth is when living in victim mode, you get sympathy, you’re the center of attention, you have a valid excuse for not taking responsibility for your feelings or your actions, little is expected of you, and you feel justified for being depressed.

Many people use their race, gender, and childhood circumstances as excuse for feeling like a victim. Whenever anyone will listen they share their sob story. And, they used that story as an excuse to be angry-all the time. The truth is we all have our own sob stories, but at some point we have to take responsibility to turn our condition around.

At what point does one take the responsibility to recognize that they helped to create some of what happened to them because of the choices they made? I’ll tell you, when we choose to relinquish our right of choice, we are making a choice. This also relates to when we make no decision at all. But making no decision is making a decision to give someone else the power, and the problem with that is we rarely like the choices others make for us.

The bottom line is we make choices everyday about how we want to live, about ho we want to have, and we make choices every day about how we want to feel. And everyday we and other people feel the effects of those choices. Sometimes, added stress, strained relationships, and fewer desirable opportunities are among the consequences we pay.

That point is one of life’s greatest gifts comes when we realize we have the power to make our own choices, and therefore direct our lives.

Real Talk: It is very easy to see ourselves as victims. It is easy to do whatever we want in life, and then blame someone else for the outcome. However, it takes real courage to choose wisely and to take responsibility for our choices.

Today I want you to think about your “Free Will” what does it mean to you? What do you want out of life? If money was no issue what would you do or have? Stop right now and create a “Dream List” write down at least 25 things you’d most like to do.

“You and only you have the power to move your life forward. You don’t have to feel like a victim of life’s circumstances”-LeToya White

I hope this helps. Till next time!!!

Love and Blessing

LeToya

LeToya White is the founder of The Light of Day, INC. a research center that develops personal development and life tools that help people overcome the adversity of life. If you have moved to a new city…don't know many people, don’t have any friends, are stuck in a rut, feel trapped, performance is trending low, lost your drive for life, or have insecurities please feel free to contact me at lightofdayinc@yahoo.com for a free consultation.

 Things to think about, Life will always have challenges just remember this too shall pass. Your ultimate goals and objectives you have set out for your life resolves around your fears, anxiety or low self-confidence. Do you have a sense for which one of these may be causing the hiccups you mention? If so you have the first step to getting out of your rut.

Many of my clients respond to their problem with this statement, “Every time I say to myself I need to make a change, it always backfires and I end up going one step forward, 500 steps back.”

Do you feel this way, if so you are not alone!

The truth is when you get the feelings that your goals are impossible to reach, do you believe it has to do with the goals you have selected or with uncertainties/fears/negative challenges that impact your belief that you will get there?

When this happens you need to try harder to put yourself in situations that will create opportunity of change. Not only will doing something for change and the enjoyment of it help get out of your mental rut; it will give you a new opportunity to form relationships and friends… breaking down your fear boosting self confidence are all supported by the willingness to change.

I look forward from hearing from you!!!

Love and Blessing LeToya