Overcome Regrets

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Dear Friend,

The number one problem in life today is that we feel sorry for ourselves. Feeling guilty for things we cannot change. Regret like guilt, keeps us focused on the past. Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought to yourself: What am I doing here? Is this really my life? Why am I afraid of what people think of me? Would my life circumstances be better if I had moved to another city?

Regret is a part of the human experience. The word “regret” originates from the Middle English word regreet, meaning “to lament” or to feel sorry.” Our regrets may serve as wonderful opportunities from which we can learn, or they may become slayers of our self-esteem and hold us back from future opportunities. When we rehash our past decisions over and over in our minds, we can create regrets that corrode our present lives.

Another type of regret besets people who are afraid to take risks. Perhaps they don’t have enough self-esteem to believe in themselves. Perhaps they fear responsibility, especially for making decisions or doing the necessary work to succeed. These individuals may regret taking the easy way out, never testing themselves or their abilities. They may fall into an emotional slump and be overcome with self-pity, resentment, anger, and depression.

Many people ask me where regret comes from. My first thought is that regret stems from lost experiences. In hindsight, we feel we missed a chance to do or be something wonderful or meaningful.

To overcome this limited belief we must first know that we are powerless over the past. The past is gone, and we cannot get it back. Second, we must understand that our power only lies in the present moment. Now is the time to weigh our current circumstances. Third we must take the time to reevaluate our values and goals, and begin to make decisions that will foster the lives we want to live.

With this said, I beg for you to forgive and lead a life of compassion and let go of your emotional baggage and move on to the next stage in your spiritual journey. Amend your actions and move forward with joy in your heart not regret.

“I’d rather look forward and dream, than look backward and regret.”-Anonymous

I hope this helps. Till next time!!!

Love and Blessing

LeToya

LeToya White is the founder of The Light of Day, INC. a research center that develops personal development and life tools that help people overcome the adversity of life. If you have moved to a new city…don't know many people, don’t have any friends, are stuck in a rut, feel trapped, performance is trending low, lost your drive for life, or have insecurities please feel free to contact me at lightofdayinc@yahoo.com for a free consultation.

 Things to think about, Life will always have challenges just remember this too shall pass. Your ultimate goals and objectives you have set out for your life resolves around your fears, anxiety or low self-confidence. Do you have a sense for which one of these may be causing the hiccups you mention? If so you have the first step to getting out of your rut.

Many of my clients respond to their problem with this statement, “Every time I say to myself I need to make a change, it always backfires and I end up going one step forward, 500 steps back.”

Do you feel this way, if so you are not alone!

The truth is when you get the feelings that your goals are impossible to reach, do you believe it has to do with the goals you have selected or with uncertainties/fears/negative challenges that impact your belief that you will get there?

When this happens you need to try harder to put yourself in situations that will create opportunity of change. Not only will doing something for change and the enjoyment of it help get out of your mental rut; it will give you a new opportunity to form relationships and friends… breaking down your fear boosting self confidence are all supported by the willingness to change.

I look forward from hearing from you!!!

Love and Blessing LeToya