How to Develop a Plan for My Career and Incorporate it Into my Family Lifestyle?

                                                

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Welcome Friends,

Last month we touch basis on “What do you want”. This month August’s lessons we will complete our awareness on “What do I want from my life” sessions. In June we rested our mental thinking and feed our spirits.

This exercise consists of listening to a variety of inspiration messages that came in the form of music. This helped you FEEL the power of your emotions and help with the creating visualizing process.

 In July sessions we listen and watched a variety of inspiration messages that came in the form of video. This also helped you FEEL the power of your emotions and help with the creating visualizing process.

This month of August we will wrap things up with articles that can help us get out of our comfort zone to get what we want out of life.

Our careers give us a sense of success, independence, and maturity. However, many of us are in quite a quandary about how to find careers that we enjoy and that give us the financial security and freedom we crave.

In order to find balance within your career and family you must learn how to incorporate time management into both your career and family life. To do this you must first check your priorities.

What are the most important factors within your life in this present moment?

Think about your lifestyle…

Who are you in your family life?

What are your roles?

How do you spend most your time?

What needs to stay at the top of your to-do-list and what can be replaced?

 For example,

Who are you in your family life…I am the head of household.

What are your roles? My roles consist of being a wife, mother, daughter, business owner, and pastor.

How do you spend most your time? I spend most of my time completing household management, building a counseling business, and community services.

What needs are at the top of my list?

Family

Counseling/Community Services

Household Management

Social event with extended family members

What can be replaced? I can cut back on my social events in order to make more time for community services such as Wedding Ceremonies and New Home/Office Blessing.

This same concept can be made when incorporating your family into your work life. Above we made clear what our family expectations are. Now we can work those expectations into our career life or balance the two out by rearranging what should remain urgent and what could be put off until a later time.

How this can help you…

Well!

Answer the exact same question only this time try to relate those questions to your career life.

Who Am I   in my career?

What do I want in my career?

Or, what career do I want?

How do I want to spend my time within my career hours?

What needs to stay at the top of your to-do-list and what can be replaced?

How do I get what I want in a career?

 For example,

Who am I in my career? I am a writer, business owner, counselor and pastor.

What do I want in my career? I want to help people change their condition within their lifestyle. I want people to love themselves more so they can learn how to say yes to life and create the life they desire.

How do I want to spend my time within my career hours? I really enjoy marrying people, and I love to bless people homes and workplaces. However, counseling and writing are my top priority along with running my other business ventures.

What needs to stay at the top of your to-do-list?

Counseling & Writing are urgent!

What can be replaced?

I do not want to replace anything. However, I can cut back on offering services for marrying couples and home blessing by appointment only. This way my life will not become overscheduled and my family continue to get their time as well as my business venture.

How do I get what I want in a career?

First, I prepare and set priorities. Next, I list my urgent first on my to-list then I list what is important continuing until I get to least important. For example,

To-Do-List

Urgent

Family

Counseling

Writing

Important

Marring couples

Home/Office Blessing

Least Important

A perfect kitchen is least important.

Household Management is important but can be delegated to my husband and kids assigning each person a job. Good thing I have four children! LOL.

I hope this helps. Till next time!!!

Love and Blessing

LeToya

LeToya White is the founder of The Light of Day, INC. a research center that develops personal development and life tools that help people overcome the adversity of life. If you have moved to a new city…don't know many people, don’t have any friends, are stuck in a rut, feel trapped, performance is trending low, lost your drive for life, or have insecurities please feel free to contact me at lightofdayinc@yahoo.com for a free consultation or visit www.lightofdayinc.com.

 Things to think about, Life will always have challenges just remember this too shall pass. Your ultimate goals and objectives you have set out for your life resolves around your fears, anxiety or low self-confidence. Do you have a sense for which one of these may be causing the hiccups you mention? If so you have the first step to getting out of your rut.

Many of my clients respond to their problem with this statement, “Every time I say to myself I need to make a change, it always backfires and I end up going one step forward, 500 steps back.”

Do you feel this way, if so you are not alone!

The truth is when you get the feelings that your goals are impossible to reach, do you believe it has to do with the goals you have selected or with uncertainties/fears/negative challenges that impact your belief that you will get there?

When this happens you need to try harder to put yourself in situations that will create opportunity of change. Not only will doing something for change and the enjoyment of it help get out of your mental rut; it will give you a new opportunity to form relationships and friends… breaking down your fear boosting self confidence are all supported by the willingness to change.

I look forward from hearing from you!!!

Love and Blessing

LeToya

How to Remain successful, Raise my Children and Still Have Free Time for Myself?

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Dear Friend,

Few of us were encouraged, especially by our parents, to take time to travel, work odd jobs, and discover what we wanted. Often our career choices were based on things we liked at the time, what our friends were doing, what our parents wanted us to do. What would make us a lot of money, or what looked interesting when we flipped through the career books at college orientation programs.

Few of us stopped to ask ourselves, “Who Am I” because we were too busy securing our first jobs or people pleasing (Doing what our parents expected or wanted us to do).

In order to remain successful you must first stop what you are doing in take a hard look at your life and ask yourself…

Is this the life I truly want to live?

 Is the job I have satisfying me?

Am I excited to get up in the morning to go to work?

These questions will help you look at your career path a little closer. Pay attention to how you feel when you answer these questions. Do you feel butterflies or excitement?

Do you want to live this way? If not jot down in a journal how you feel and make the changes necessary to lead a better life.

Below are questions to answer to help you ponder your life choices deeper.

1. Who Am I as an employee? Example: Am I happy or excited to get up to go to my current workplace? Or, Are you drained and depressed in your current workplace?

2. Who Am I when I work with other people?

3. Are you happy in your current career field?

4. If, not what would it take for you to be fulfilled?

5. Are you satisfied with your position? If not, what role satisfies you?

6. Are you satisfied with your current pay? If not, what do you think will help you in your financial situation?

7. Have you made any decision or taken any action to change the way you feel if you answered no to any of the above questions?

8. List 3 things you can do today that will make you feel more secure and fulfilled within your career.

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2.

3.

Being a truly independent woman means making independent, yet responsible, choices. In order to raise your children and continue to have free-time for yourself you must once again prioritize you life.

Go back and read “How to Develop a Plan for My Career and Incorporate it Into my Family Lifestyle? This article will help you to prioritize your schedule.

Note that this time you will add an additional step be seeking how you want to best spend your free time. Once that is completed make a to-do-list by listing all your urgent first, then important goals to least important. This will give you a schedule for your career, parenting, and self care needs.

Many of us are unaware of how we spend our time with a little preparation and awareness we are able to balance all of our needs while living a life we love. Rather, then doing things we just hate doing.

Now I’m not saying we will never do things we hate. That would be absorbed! We all have things rather not do. By taking time to plan our days we have better control of what we want to do and rather not do. We are more successful, happy, and peaceful when things are done. We spend time with the people we love and are at peace rather than stressed out.

I learned along time ago that having a plan makes you feel more confident. But I learned that the plan was put in place for us to set goals and direction for our lives. I use to lack direction because I had no clue how I wanted to spend my day.

For instance, “What I wanted to do.”  I learned what I wanted and what I was made of when I put my plan in place. I hope this article have put some type of direction and hope into your life so you can feel the same way.

To ease the woes of uncertainty in life, we can remind ourselves that just making the best decisions that we can everyday is good enough. So, grab a piece of paper and make your plan. You have nothing to lose!

I hope this helps. Till next time!!!

Love and Blessing

LeToya

LeToya White is the founder of The Light of Day, INC. a research center that develops personal development and life tools that help people overcome the adversity of life. If you have moved to a new city…don't know many people, don’t have any friends, are stuck in a rut, feel trapped, performance is trending low, lost your drive for life, or have insecurities please feel free to contact me at lightofdayinc@yahoo.com for a free consultation or visit www.lightofdayinc.com.

 Things to think about, Life will always have challenges just remember this too shall pass. Your ultimate goals and objectives you have set out for your life resolves around your fears, anxiety or low self-confidence. Do you have a sense for which one of these may be causing the hiccups you mention? If so you have the first step to getting out of your rut.

Many of my clients respond to their problem with this statement, “Every time I say to myself I need to make a change, it always backfires and I end up going one step forward, 500 steps back.”

Do you feel this way, if so you are not alone!

The truth is when you get the feelings that your goals are impossible to reach, do you believe it has to do with the goals you have selected or with uncertainties/fears/negative challenges that impact your belief that you will get there?

When this happens you need to try harder to put yourself in situations that will create opportunity of change. Not only will doing something for change and the enjoyment of it help get out of your mental rut; it will give you a new opportunity to form relationships and friends… breaking down your fear boosting self confidence are all supported by the willingness to change.

I look forward from hearing from you!!!

Love and Blessing

LeToya

How to Create a Foundation for Career Success?

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Dear Friend,

A lot of us daydream about how things could be different or better in our lives because we hate our current circumstances. Although day dreaming can be valuable, true sanity comes from contentment with where we are.

There is a big difference between the real pleasures of the here and now and the illusory pleasure of fantasy. I once was told that many dreams about how we want the future to be are simply ways to avoid reality. I can agree with this statement.

Living for the future and staying extra busy with unnecessary activities keeps us from fully evolving and tapping into our present day experience of life.

Below are 7 tips to help you move forward and stay focus on getting out of your head and into the present moment. To help you create a simple foundation for career success.

-Organize al the plans and dreams that float around in your mind. Once they are down on paper and you’ve committed time to thinking and acting upon them it will be easier to let them go and focus on the here and now.

- Change Your Thinking...You Change Your Results! Raising your awareness, habituating the practice of goal setting and planning and learning to focus on the present. Many people fall short in life because they do not think for themselves. Their decisions are based upon what everyone else is doing, they do not think for themselves. They conform, they follow the masses.

-  Rid limiting beliefs, poor self esteem, lack of confidence, feelings of doubt or other negative emotions that are keeping you from moving forward. Individuals who remain in this state of mind never really quite get the results they desire or reach their goals efficiently or timely. Most of all they care too much what other people think of them and about other people opinions.

 -Learn to pratcice discipline. This is where an individual becomes aware of how to use thought, goals, planning, and desire to manifest the outcomes and results they want. Those with discipline to stay on course, steadfast towards their goals, no matter what is happening around them or what other people (the masses) are saying to or about them.

-Expect favor from Higher Power! Learn to reprogram your mind to replace that old, non-serving belief system that life is hard. Believe life is GREAT, Expect GREAT things!

-Pratice the law of attraction!

DESIRE: The first key part is desire. You must want it. You must want something so badly that you are willing to make changes. You must want it in every cell and fiber of your being.

-DESERVE: The second key to becoming perfectly aligned and congruent is to deserve it, this is self-acceptance. This is also your self esteem, you must believe that you deserve that which you want or consider success in life and that you are deserving of all the abundance of life.

-BELIEVE: The third key part is belief. You must believe, with faith and purpose that you can achieve a successful life in all areas.

- Learn to be grateful! If you feel good about anything at all, then you're going to attract things that you associate with being good. The feelings you need to hold are feelings of love, joy, happiness, optimism, passion, faith and hope. These feelings tell us, that what we are thinking about or experiencing is alignment with what we really want. We are happy and this is the direction we should continue to take.

I hope this helps. Till next time!!!

Love and Blessing

LeToya

LeToya White is the founder of The Light of Day, INC. a research center that develops personal development and life tools that help people overcome the adversity of life. If you have moved to a new city…don't know many people, don’t have any friends, are stuck in a rut, feel trapped, performance is trending low, lost your drive for life, or have insecurities please feel free to contact me at lightofdayinc@yahoo.com for a free consultation or visit www.lightofdayinc.com.

 Things to think about, Life will always have challenges just remember this too shall pass. Your ultimate goals and objectives you have set out for your life resolves around your fears, anxiety or low self-confidence. Do you have a sense for which one of these may be causing the hiccups you mention? If so you have the first step to getting out of your rut.

Many of my clients respond to their problem with this statement, “Every time I say to

myself I need to make a change, it always backfires and I end up going one step forward, 500 steps back.”

Do you feel this way, if so you are not alone!

The truth is when you get the feelings that your goals are impossible to reach, do you believe it has to do with the goals you have selected or with uncertainties/fears/negative challenges that impact your belief that you will get there?

When this happens you need to try harder to put yourself in situations that will create opportunity of change. Not only will doing something for change and the enjoyment of it help get out of your mental rut; it will give you a new opportunity to form relationships and friends… breaking down your fear boosting self confidence are all supported by the willingness to change.

I look forward from hearing from you!!!

Love and Blessing

LeToya

How to Support Myself and Take care of Myself Independently?

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Dear Friend,

Designing a road map of our lives based on our beliefs and expectations can make us feel more secure. Yet, truthfully, we have to remember that the bottom can fall out at anytime.

Setting standards and making plans are great ways to set goals, but our circumstances do change. We can not limit our experiences of life to what we think we can control or understand or what makes us feel safe.

For example,

Rose Story

I have a client I will call her Rose. Rose had a traditional belief about raising her family.

Rose and her husband agreed on her staying home with the children while he went out to work in provided for the family. There is nothing wrong with this picture except that during the ten years of Rose staying home their family played catch up on their bills.

They were consistently living pay check to pay check with nothing saved. Rose husband had a heart attack at the age of 33 years old and died.

Unfortunately, this crisis turned Rose life around! Rose was faced to learn how to become independent, raise her family on her own, and find work as soon as possible.

Rose had a hard time adjusting because all she ever knew how to do was be a housewife. Her husband family took her to court to get custody of her children, because they felt she was unable to provide for them, on the income Rose made as a house keeper at the local hotel.

 Rose face a major crisis and transition while grieving from the lost of her husband. When she came to see me she was very lost, confused and completely overwhelmed with her life changes.

In order to help Rose first I had to help her accept the lost of her husband death and guide her through the grieving process. Next, we had to identity her new identity and her skill level to prepare her for the adjustment she needed in looking for a career and establish an independent life that could provide for her and her kids.

Once Rose had a plan, she was able to move into a rental home and out the apartment she was forced into after losing her home due to lack of finance to afford it. She regained custody of her children and now her in-laws are part of her support group rather than violating her boundaries as she perceived them to be doing at that time.

With that said, what can you learn from Rose story?

Although we all have beliefs we still must have a back up plan for the future. For example, Rose chose to be a stay at home mom. That’s awesome!

However her family struggled to make ends meet. (First red flag) Therefore Rose should have learned how to be a little more independent just in case a worse case scenario such as death, a lay off or illness may affect her husband who was the primary breadwinner. (Their should always be a PLAN B) The bills still must be paid life will continue to move on although we all are faced with crisis.

Lesson we can learn from Rose

Rose could have chosen to keep her belief first while working on the weekend while her husband kept the kids or by starting a work from home business. She still has quality time, raised her kids herself without a babysitter or daycare and contributed to their financial situation. While establishing her own independence, identity and building her own self worth.

How about you? What can you do to ensure that you have a Plan B?

Write what you can do to adjust your life now just in case a crisis arises.


Today I can build and secure my future by…
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The next phase in securing our foundation of independence is to truly understand what it means to be independent to ensure you are able to take care of yourself independently.

Co-Dependent No More…Steps to Becoming Independent!

1. Start by being accountable for your life and your choices.

2. Find a job and get hired.

3. Sign up for a bank account.

4. Save money; pay yourself. Save as much as is reasonably possible. This will help you create an emergency fund, since life can be unpredictable at times. Improve the quality of your life by putting aside a set amount of money each month.

5. Rid the bad influences in your life. Many people like to hold you back in life when they lack directions themselves. Pay attention to any person who is negative or try to talk you out of you trying to better yourself.

6. Rent or buy your own place. It may be difficult, but when your finances are in order step out on your own. Setbacks will enter your life in the unexpected times especially when you have goals to move out on your own, but keep working so you can have your own place. This will encourage you to hoist yourself out of the life depending on other people. Be determined. Never doubt that you can make progress, even if there are setbacks.

 7. Stay in school or get training in a good trade or improve abilities and skills. Learn a trade -- to begin a real career. Then think about a side hustle you can begin such as a small business like Cleaning Services, Avon, Retail Store- selling something you are passionate about. Once you have the extra income in place- use it to build passive income such as investments in stocks and bonds or real estate. This way you will secure your future!!!

Build up your Life Skills…

-If you can't cook, or you've never tried, start with a simple recipe. If you can read and follow directions, you can cook anything you set your mind to!

-Learn the basic skills of accounting, budgeting and managing your money. Make sure to put money aside for bills when you move out on your own. Rent, utilities, laundry, fuel, groceries, etc. SAVE SAVE SAVE and make it a habit to bless God with your first 10% of your check you have to give to receive.

-Be a good housekeeper. You will feel good about being on your own in a clean environment. Clean as you go, clean a little everyday to prevent an overload feeling after everything piles up.

-Please Please Please take care of your credit without it life can been hard and some companies WILL NOT HIRE YOU WITH BAD CREDIT.

I hope this helps. Till next time!!!

Love and Blessing

LeToya

LeToya White is the founder of The Light of Day, INC. a research center that develops personal development and life tools that help people overcome the adversity of life. If you have moved to a new city…don't know many people, don’t have any friends, are stuck in a rut, feel trapped, performance is trending low, lost your drive for life, or have insecurities please feel free to contact me at lightofdayinc@yahoo.com for a free consultation or visit www.lightofdayinc.com.

 Things to think about, Life will always have challenges just remember this too shall pass. Your ultimate goals and objectives you have set out for your life resolves around your fears, anxiety or low self-confidence. Do you have a sense for which one of these may be causing the hiccups you mention? If so you have the first step to getting out of your rut.

Many of my clients respond to their problem with this statement, “Every time I say to myself I need to make a change, it always backfires and I end up going one step forward, 500 steps back.”

Do you feel this way, if so you are not alone!

The truth is when you get the feelings that your goals are impossible to reach, do you believe it has to do with the goals you have selected or with uncertainties/fears/negative challenges that impact your belief that you will get there?

When this happens you need to try harder to put yourself in situations that will create opportunity of change. Not only will doing something for change and the enjoyment of it help get out of your mental rut; it will give you a new opportunity to form relationships and friends… breaking down your fear boosting self confidence are all supported by the willingness to change.

I look forward from hearing from you!!!

Love and Blessing

LeToya

How to Find my Passion?

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Dear Friend,

If you are feeling confused, anxiety, suffer from self-doubt and do not know what you want to do with your life you are experiencing an identity crisis. If you are in your twenty something it will be defined as a quarterlife crisis. If you are 30 or older it will be defined as a midlife crisis. No matter the age difference this phrase crisis is the same challenges and setbacks no matter what decade you experience it in.

You feel as if you are experiencing a mental breakdown, you are face with pressure of not knowing what you want to do with your life. You lack direction, faith in yourself; you feel empty and like you are just floating along in life, going through the motions. I know this is how I felt when I was 24 years old.

I was unhappy, confused, and stressed out.
I wanted to know what my purpose in life was. Why Am I here?
What does God want me to do and be for this life time?
I had a lot of unanswered questions. I felt like a failure because I was so very lost and confused. And no one understood what I was going through.

After having my second daughter all of a sudden I felt lots of pressure to do and be more. I did not feel like a grown-up because I was still learning about myself. I was reading self help books, going to workshops and pursuing what I thought I wanted to do for a profession.

As my mind started to renew itself and I started to perceive the world a little different. I new I had to learn how to become more independent, assertive and that it would be a lifetime of self discovery that would eventually put me in the place I needed to be in order to live out my passion.

As I search, trying to figure out what makes me tick, what makes me laugh, what makes me excited and my heart sing. I slowly begin to see where I fit into in this world.

The fact is to live and find your passion you will need to have a willingness to learn, be open-minded, to seek and go place you never gone before. All it takes is a yes and a commitment to take control of your life and create it into a life you love.

So, now I know you are wondering “well” how can I do this?

Finding yourself is an enlightening experience. You become self-sufficient and do things for others without expectations of something in return. You are no longer needy and become utterly grateful for all the things people have done for you in the past.

Finding yourself is a time of harmony because you develop the philosophy or belief system that will carry you throughout the rest of your life. You learn how to love yourself and who you are.

First, create your own life's life timeline. To do this start by writing down all of your major goals in your life that you feel you want to achieve. Next, write down the events in your life that have already happened that you believe have affected you and have made you who you are now. This isn't an exercise in wallowing but one about clarification and identification of issues that might be hampering your present potential and the blossoming of your true sense of self.

Second, ask yourself some simple questions, like:

If I could do one thing for the rest of my life, what would it be?

What do I love to do?

What would I do, even if I didn't get paid to do it?

Dig deep within yourself, think about what you love to do with your spare time, and whether it's something you could do full time. You don't have to be good at it, and it doesn't have to make you money. Just think about what you like to do.

Third, try doing a few new things. Take up some extra hobbies, try writing or singing; just get out there and try all kinds of things. It will help you see what you do like doing and what you don't; and hopefully, your passion.

 Fourth, talk to people who are involved with what you find interest in. Ask questions on how they got started, what they like/dislike about it etc. Then maybe give it a shot and see for yourself if it's something you truly are interested in or not.

Last, avoid discussing your options with too many outside sources. While the input of trusted loved ones could be helpful, asking too many people could also cause you to doubt yourself and not find your passion

Doing a job and being passionate about the work that you do are two different things. Many people struggle to find passion for their jobs or their work and worry that they're not happy in their careers. Learn how to find a passion for work to fully satisfy your passion at your job every day.

I hope this helps. Till next time!!!

Love and Blessing

LeToya

LeToya White is the founder of The Light of Day, INC. a research center that develops personal development and life tools that help people overcome the adversity of life. If you have moved to a new city…don't know many people, don’t have any friends, are stuck in a rut, feel trapped, performance is trending low, lost your drive for life, or have insecurities please feel free to contact me at lightofdayinc@yahoo.com for a free consultation or visit www.lightofdayinc.com.

 Things to think about, Life will always have challenges just remember this too shall pass. Your ultimate goals and objectives you have set out for your life resolves around your fears, anxiety or low self-confidence. Do you have a sense for which one of these may be causing the hiccups you mention? If so you have the first step to getting out of your rut.

Many of my clients respond to their problem with this statement, “Every time I say to myself I need to make a change, it always backfires and I end up going one step forward, 500 steps back.”

Do you feel this way, if so you are not alone!

The truth is when you get the feelings that your goals are impossible to reach, do you believe it has to do with the goals you have selected or with uncertainties/fears/negative challenges that impact your belief that you will get there?

When this happens you need to try harder to put yourself in situations that will create opportunity of change. Not only will doing something for change and the enjoyment of it help get out of your mental rut; it will give you a new opportunity to form relationships and friends… breaking down your fear boosting self confidence are all supported by the willingness to change.

I look forward from hearing from you!!!

Love and Blessing

LeToya

How to Start Doing Something Real, Make a Difference and Be on a Path, Because Time is Running Out!

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Dear Friend,

Today I have simple advice for you. In order to do something that feels real or have real meaning that will make a difference in the world. All you have to do is be true to yourself.

First off, do not let others decide for you what you are destined to do. Their path may not be the correct path for you. What works for one person may not work for the next.

Second, don't lie to yourself and try to be someone you are not. Remember this is about being your self. As it is important to not let family members decide, it is also important not to let society and the media push you in a certain direction, especially when it comes to your physical appearance.

Third, don't let yourself get caught up in a habit of constantly changing who you are or how you act just to fit in. You do not need the approval of anyone to live the life that you see fit for yourself. Only you know what is best for your personal situation.
Write down exactly what's wrong with your life. What areas are making you the most unhappy? Choose the area that you most want to change.

Do you hate your love life?

Are you sick of your job and desperate for a new career?

Do you have negative family relationships that constantly drag you down?

Do you hate your appearance and how it's affecting your health?

Are you irresponsible with money and buried in debts?

Doing Something Real…

Now think of what will make your life feel more real if these areas were perfect. What would make these areas perfect?

 Making a Difference…

What did you always want to be when you grew up? If that wish is no longer realistic, can you come close to it or pick something else that would still make you happy?  How can you change you career option to where you where actually making a difference?

Staying on the right path…

Notice what is working about your life. Make a list of both big and small positives. How can these elements of your life help you to fix the parts that aren't working? What should you keep and what are you willing to sacrifice in order to change other parts of your life?

Write down the changes that you want to make. Make lists and time-lines. Remember to read them every day, preferably when you wake up. Where do you want to be in 5 years? 10 years? 20 years? What do you want to accomplish before you die?

Choose 1 activity for each change that you can complete within the next 48 hours.

Expand your comfort zone. Do something that's completely out of character. Cut your hair, try public speaking, wear a makeup, try a Zumba class or sing while you're in the shower. Stepping out of your comfort zone will help you get used to facing your fears. You'll also get used to facing people's reactions when you do something they'd never expect you to do.

I hope this helps. Till next time!!!

Love and Blessing

LeToya

LeToya White is the founder of The Light of Day, INC. a research center that develops personal development and life tools that help people overcome the adversity of life. If you have moved to a new city…don't know many people, don’t have any friends, are stuck in a rut, feel trapped, performance is trending low, lost your drive for life, or have insecurities please feel free to contact me at lightofdayinc@yahoo.com for a free consultation or visit www.lightofdayinc.com.

 Things to think about, Life will always have challenges just remember this too shall pass. Your ultimate goals and objectives you have set out for your life resolves around your fears, anxiety or low self-confidence. Do you have a sense for which one of these may be causing the hiccups you mention? If so you have the first step to getting out of your rut.

Many of my clients respond to their problem with this statement, “Every time I say to myself I need to make a change, it always backfires and I end up going one step forward, 500 steps back.”

Do you feel this way, if so you are not alone!

The truth is when you get the feelings that your goals are impossible to reach, do you believe it has to do with the goals you have selected or with uncertainties/fears/negative challenges that impact your belief that you will get there?

When this happens you need to try harder to put yourself in situations that will create opportunity of change. Not only will doing something for change and the enjoyment of it help get out of your mental rut; it will give you a new opportunity to form relationships and friends… breaking down your fear boosting self confidence are all supported by the willingness to change.

I look forward from hearing from you!!!

Love and Blessing

LeToya