Ways to make Yourself Miserable

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Dear Friend,

I bet that title really reeled you in.

This month I plan to shake things up a bit by writing about things you should avoid rather than do and asking you to think about what you really want out of life.

So here it is 6 ways you make your life miserable each and every day.

First, STOP Complaining About Things

When you complain you don’t just waste time but you increase your stress level. You say so many negative things that you don’t just end up feeling bad for yourself but you feel insecure and smaller because life seems so out of control. Then you start to blame other people for your life choices.

You therefore set your standards low and make excuses for all of your failures. This results in you being less successful and less happy.
So just stop complaining.

Second, START TODAY to STOP Counting Your Blessings Troubles

Why would you want to purposely make yourself feel bad?

By counting your troubles you are simply setting yourself up for depression and other problems. The reason being that negativity leads to stress and discomfort which then leads to more serious problems. You begin to experience a stroke of bad luck and begin to manifest health problems.

So unless you enjoy hurting yourself, no pun intended just don’t do it.

Third, STOP Habitually Comparing Yourself with Others

Everybody does this, but once it starts happening too much it becomes very problematic.  So regardless of if you feel inferior or in reverse superior, it’s bad and will eventually make you miserable. During any crisis we tend to look outward instead of inward. Everything you need to survive is within. Stop comparing yourself to other people their problems, lessons, and challenges are different from yours. Therefore their experiences will be different from yours.

Fourth, Why Don’t You Like to Forgive

I think people enjoy having a certain burden on themselves; I have no other explanation to explain why people don’t forgive.

By not forgiving you only hurt yourself as you carry the burden for the other person. You carry the other person’s problem and stupidity and therefore only make yourself miserable. The key to forgiving is to heal yourself and let go of the nonsense so you can move forward into the life you are meant to live. This will not happen until you let go of the baggage you continue to hold on to so tightly.

Fifth, Why Don’t You Believe In Yourself

By simply not believing in yourself you limit your opportunity for success, happiness and achievement. You limit your potential and therefore limit your emotion.

This constant push down doesn’t just makes you feel unconfident but makes you miserable. Then fear sets in then you question your own ability to move forward, which lead to being stuck in life. Whatever you believe you can achieve or not! The choice is yours.

Sixth, You Don’t try Your Hardest

When you give a halfhearted effort you will always get a half hearted result. This alone can be quite depressing for some people. But the truth is that by not trying your hardest each time, you feel bad simply knowing you could do more.

This constant reminder that you failed will not just make you miserable but crazy. What could your life look like if you turn these six things into positive? I’ll tell you Awesome!!!

Until Next time my friend!!!

Love and Blessing

Your Friend,

LeToya

LeToya White is the founder of The Light of Day, INC. a research center that develops personal development and life tools that help people overcome the adversity of life. If you have moved to a new city…don't know many people, don’t have any friends, are stuck in a rut, feel trapped, performance is trending low, lost your drive for life, or have insecurities please feel free to contact me at lightofdayinc@yahoo.com for a free consultation.

Things to think about, Life will always have challenges just remember this too shall pass. Your ultimate goals and objectives you have set out for your life resolves around your fears, anxiety or low self-confidence. Do you have a sense for which one of these may be causing the hiccups you mention? If so you have the first step to getting out of your rut.

Many of my clients respond to their problem with this statement, “Every time I say to myself I need to make a change, it always backfires and I end up going one step forward, 500 steps back.”

Do you feel this way, if so you are not alone!

The truth is when you get the feelings that your goals are impossible to reach, do you believe it has to do with the goals you have selected or with uncertainties/fears/negative challenges that impact your belief that you will get there?

When this happens you need to try harder to put yourself in situations that will create opportunity of change. Not only will doing something for change and the enjoyment of it help get out of your mental rut; it will give you a new opportunity to form relationships and friends… breaking down your fear boosting self confidence are all supported by the willingness to change.

I look forward from hearing from you!!!

Love and Blessing LeToya