Dear Friend,After working with many clients I have learned an important life lesson. Most of the time, people are worried about looking bad in front of others. This is a major reason why many people can not express their true selves. During my graduated program I learned that “Rejection” is the number one fear. There are several reasons for this. The main cause is not to look incompetent in front of others. Deep down everyone’s heart desires is to feel important and good enough. Therefore they fear rejection.
In short there is a cure. Learning how to love yourself and become self confident. Our spirits are already confident yet we live through our ego the fearful side of us which cause us to experience low confidence and lack of self worth. Like everything else in life self confidence is a state of mind. Self-confidence is an attitude which allows individuals to have positive yet realistic views of themselves and their situations.
Most people who want to build self confidence do the mistake of focusing on the traits they want to avoid instead of focusing on the traits they want to acquire. Self-confident people trust their own abilities, have a general sense of control in their lives, and believe that, within reason, they will be able to do what they wish, plan, and expect.
People who are not self-confident depend excessively on the approval of others in order to feel good about themselves. They tend to avoid taking risks because they fear failure. They generally do not expect to be successful. They often put themselves down and tend to discount or ignore compliments paid to them.
When the subconscious mind finds that someone is thinking of something all the time it starts to help them reach it even if it was something negative!! By focusing on the negative things those entity find themselves moving towards the behavior they want to avoid. This is why I explained last month to which your thoughts and action because they create our worlds.
On the other hand self-confident people are willing to risk the disapproval of others because they generally trust their own abilities. They tend to accept themselves; they don’t feel they have to conform in order to be accepted.
The bottom line is you must learn how to become confident in order to truly live out the life of WHO YOU ARE!!!
Until Next time my friend!!!
Love and Blessing
Your Friend,
LeToya
LeToya White is the founder of The Light of Day, INC. a research center that develops personal development and life tools that help people overcome the adversity of life. If you have moved to a new city…don't know many people, don’t have any friends, are stuck in a rut, feel trapped, performance is trending low, lost your drive for life, or have insecurities please feel free to contact her at lightofdayinc@yahoo.com for a free consultation.
Things to think about...
Life will always have challenges just remember this too shall pass. Your ultimate goals and objectives you have set out for your life resolves around your fears, anxiety or low self-confidence. Do you have a sense for which one of these may be causing the hiccups you mention?
If so you have the first step to getting out of your rut.
Many of my clients respond to their problem with this statement, “Every time I say to myself I need to make a change, it always backfires and I end up going one step forward, 500 steps back.”
Do you feel this way, if so you are not alone!
The truth is when you get the feelings that your goals are impossible to reach, do you believe it has to do with the goals you have selected or with uncertainties/fears/negative challenges that impact your belief that you will get there?
When this happens you need to try harder to put yourself in situations that will create opportunity of change. Not only will doing something for change and the enjoyment of it will help get you out of your mental rut; it will give you a new opportunity to form relationships and friends… breaking down your fear boosting self confidence are all supported by the willingness to change.
I look forward from hearing from you!!!
Love and Blessing
LeToya
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