"Dedicated to Quarterlife Crisis"

"Dedicated to Women who expereince Quarterlife Crisis, Approval Addiction and Low Self-Esteem"


“You did what you knew how to do, and when you knew better, you did better.” -Maya Angelou


"Dr. White is a Quarterlife Crisis Survivor"



Quick Start Guide


Hello Friend,

Congratulations on taking your first step. By deciding there is a goal that you want to achieve you have already taken that very important step.

I’m glad you’ve chosen to invest your time in reading and working through this coaching guide. It was designed to help you to partner with God and design your life around what is important to you. This is just one of many steps designed to draw you into your destiny. The next stage of your journey starts now.

My mission in life is to spread self awareness knowledge to as many people as possible.

That’s me in the photo below. I have spent this year searching for the best things to share with you that I thought could help bring you the most awareness. Much love and heart has been poured into this site, and I hope you’ll find something here that’ll makes your heart sing, brightens up your day, or helped you with a problem.

I created this site in intention to share my personal journey many of you know I am a survivor of my very own Quarterlife Crisis, Approval Addiction and Low Self Esteem and I wanted to share some things I’ve learned about various topics pertaining to reclaiming your life after being lost, confused and lacking direction in life — we all seek fulfillment, empowerment, relationships, creativity, and want to overcome ours fears — and ultimately how to reclaim our life.

My goal is to create a warm and loving space where we can reflect on our own lives through what I learned by counseling other people and my own personal story, and to find inspiration to be happy again.

Hope you find something here that speaks to you, and that your life shines a little brighter because of it. If you’re new, make sure you start at January post and work your way down to our current post and read our motivational quotes down the side of the page.

Welcome to our awareness sessions. Take whatever you need and leave the rest behind.

Love and Blessing

Dr. Nikki LeToya White



Are youfeeling stuck?
Want to
move forward

but not sure how?
I can help you.

If you are feeling doubts about your ability to create the life you want, then you most likely have limiting beliefs that are operating below your conscious awareness.

Contact Dr. White Today to begin your Life Purpose and Transition Coaching!

E-mail lightofdayinc@yahoo.com


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To obtain the most awareness from this blog start with January post and work your way down to December. May your spirit find the information it’s seeks. God Bless you!!!!

















































































































































































































































































































































Tuesday, February 7, 2012

Part 3: Who am I? How to Define Ourselves

How to Define Ourselves



Dear Friend,

This is a series of exercises that touch basis on January 2012 Post so if you are new to this site please go back in read the January 2012 post before completing any of these exercises.

Last month we touch basis on who you are, what you want, our choices to create our worlds begin with our thoughts and how to love and approve of ourselves. Well this month I would like to discuss the meaning of Who Am I and how to obtain the right self esteem a little bit deeper in order to move forward in being our true selves. You will need a journal or notebook to complete the exercises for this months post.

Life finds its course when you allow your spirit to guide you. If we are willing to let go in go with the flow of life our spirit will guide us away from problems, bad relationships, doubts, and insecurities, and toward more loving and positive experiences.

That does not mean we will not experience evil of adversity of life. Sorry my friend there is certain adversity we all must experience designed for our individual life path in order for our soul to perfect.

What I am saying is when life has given you more than you can handle, it is because you have not released control. When you do not understand what will fulfill you, you have not let go. When life seems overwhelming and like too much to bear, you have not let go. Instead, you have let the chaos of the world surround you and define who you are rather than you going with the flow in walking the path of who you were meant to be.

There is a point in your life when you will have to make a choice to be a conscious participant in your life. This means that you allow yourself to live in love. You move away from all fear and slowly embrace love until it covers your entire life.

Sometimes a person might put you down in order to elevate his self worth and sometimes a person might attack you in order to appear superior in front of others. This is all part of life don’t let this type of behavior upset you. Instead move away from all fear and slowly embrace love until it covers your entire life.

Adversity in life does not define who we are. Love is what we are here for. Love is what we are meant to experience. Choose to take control of your life. In taking control, you are letting go of the approval of others. In taking control of your life, you define how you behave, think, who comes into your life and who must go. You decide how life is going to fulfill you. It’s all a choice. Either live in love or live under other people approval. What do you really want?

In your journal, I want you to answer a couple of questions. In our society most people define themselves by the type of career they have. When someone meet you the first thing they ask is, “What do you do?” Like this is the only statement in the world.

I would like to clear this misconception up right now, your career or how much money you have does not define you. Instead, we should ask others, “How are you doing today? Or, how do you feel? This type of statement relates to our spiritual point of view and how our inner self feels.

The Earth realm operates in a “doing” mentality, the spiritual realm operates in a “being” mentality, so we become condition to identify ourselves by things that we do rather than who we are or how we feel.

So, I’m asking you today, “How do you define your self?”

1. Describe yourself. Include the reasons that you are the person you say you are.
2. What do you love about yourself?
3. What brings you joy?
4. When you go to sleep at night, what do you wish for?
5. How do you feel about your overall appearance?

Every morning most of us take something for grated as we inhale and exhale, we never appreciate the strength of our lungs, the legs that carry us and the body that holds and protect our spirits.

We never appreciate the capability of our body to carry us forward, to help us become aware, think and feel. Instead, we assume that these will be handled naturally. In order to appreciate something, you must start by appreciating your self.

You must release yourself from being anxious and worrying about other people opinions of you. You must stop, embrace and love who you are. Learn to love and accept yourself today my friend. Learn to define who you truly are and accept it in your own divine right.

“Life changes when you commit to doing what is necessary to create a life you love.”
-LeToya White

Affirm: I will love the life I live!!!
-LeToya White

Until Next time my friend!!!

Love and Blessing
Your Friend,

LeToya





LeToya White is the founder of The Light of Day, INC. a research center that develops personal development and life tools that help people overcome the adversity of life. If you have moved to a new city…don't know many people, don’t have any friends, are stuck in a rut, feel trapped, performance is trending low, lost your drive for life, or have insecurities please feel free to contact her at lightofdayinc@yahoo.com for a free consultation.


Things to think about...


Life will always have challenges just remember this too shall pass. Your ultimate goals and objectives you have set out for your life resolves around your fears, anxiety or low self-confidence. Do you have a sense for which one of these may be causing the hiccups you mention?


If so you have the first step to getting out of your rut.
Many of my clients respond to their problem with this statement, “Every time I say to myself I need to make a change, it always backfires and I end up going one step forward, 500 steps back.”


Do you feel this way, if so you are not alone!


The truth is when you get the feelings that your goals are impossible to reach, do you believe it has to do with the goals you have selected or with uncertainties/fears/negative challenges that impact your belief that you will get there?


When this happens you need to try harder to put yourself in situations that will create opportunity of change. Not only will doing something for change and the enjoyment of it will help get you out of your mental rut; it will give you a new opportunity to form relationships and friends… breaking down your fear boosting self confidence are all supported by the willingness to change.


I look forward from hearing from you!!!


Love and Blessing
LeToya

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