Dear Friend,
Until you learn how to love yourself, this is how you cripple yourself so that you can’t move forward or go after the things you want.
Underlying this negative self talk it can be long-held beliefs about yourself or statements that other people once said to you. This usually comes from your parents, siblings, and other people around you during your early years.
Whatever the case may be where the stimulus was negative; the small seed were planted and grown into small negative self talk, fear and unhealthy choices! This so clearly demonstrates the effects of the negativity hurled at oneself until you learn how to love yourself.
A good first step in learning how to love yourself is to periodically check in with yourself through the day and notice how you’re feeling – happy, alive and open? Closed and contracted? Neutral?
If you are feeling negative, trace back to when you first started feeling that way. Chances are really good that somewhere at that juncture you told yourself something negative about yourself.
What might first come to your awareness is a negative attitude or thought about someone else. However, if you look closer you’ll find that somewhere along the way the part that really got you feeling bad was a negative thought about yourself. It might have been guilt about the negative thought about someone else, or feelings of inadequacy.
Once you aware take one of the tools you have learn and apply it to your life.
Think Positive!
Speak positive!
Act positive!
Do What ever needs to be done to feel better about yourself and move forward in your life.
I hope this helps,
Till next time my friend
Love and Blessing
LeToya
LeToya White is the founder of The Light of Day, INC. a research center that develops personal development and life tools that help people overcome the adversity of life. If you have moved to a new city…don't know many people, don’t have any friends, are stuck in a rut, feel trapped, performance is trending low, lost your drive for life, or have insecurities please feel free to contact me at lightofdayinc@yahoo.com for a free consultation or visit www.lightofdayinc.com.
Things to think about, Life will always have challenges just remember this too shall pass. Your ultimate goals and objectives you have set out for your life resolves around your fears, anxiety or low self-confidence. Do you have a sense for which one of these may be causing the hiccups you mention? If so you have the first step to getting out of your rut.
Many of my clients respond to their problem with this statement, “Every time I say to myself I need to make a change, it always backfires and I end up going one step forward, 500 steps back.”
Do you feel this way, if so you are not alone!
The truth is when you get the feelings that your goals are impossible to reach, do you believe it has to do with the goals you have selected or with uncertainties/fears/negative challenges that impact your belief that you will get there?
When this happens you need to try harder to put yourself in situations that will create opportunity of change. Not only will doing something for change and the enjoyment of it help get out of your mental rut; it will give you a new opportunity to form relationships and friends… breaking down your fear boosting self confidence are all supported by the willingness to change.
I look forward from hearing from you!!!
Love and Blessing
LeToya
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