Dear Friend,
Today I have simple advice for you. In order to do something that feels real or have real meaning that will make a difference in the world. All you have to do is be true to yourself.
First off, do not let others decide for you what you are destined to do. Their path may not be the correct path for you. What works for one person may not work for the next.
Second, don't lie to yourself and try to be someone you are not. Remember this is about being your self. As it is important to not let family members decide, it is also important not to let society and the media push you in a certain direction, especially when it comes to your physical appearance.
Third, don't let yourself get caught up in a habit of constantly changing who you are or how you act just to fit in. You do not need the approval of anyone to live the life that you see fit for yourself. Only you know what is best for your personal situation.
Write down exactly what's wrong with your life. What areas are making you the most unhappy? Choose the area that you most want to change.
Do you hate your love life?
Are you sick of your job and desperate for a new career?
Do you have negative family relationships that constantly drag you down?
Do you hate your appearance and how it's affecting your health?
Are you irresponsible with money and buried in debts?
Doing Something Real…
Now think of what will make your life feel more real if these areas were perfect. What would make these areas perfect?
What did you always want to be when you grew up? If that wish is no longer realistic, can you come close to it or pick something else that would still make you happy? How can you change you career option to where you where actually making a difference?
Staying on the right path…
Notice what is working about your life. Make a list of both big and small positives. How can these elements of your life help you to fix the parts that aren't working? What should you keep and what are you willing to sacrifice in order to change other parts of your life?
Write down the changes that you want to make. Make lists and time-lines. Remember to read them every day, preferably when you wake up. Where do you want to be in 5 years? 10 years? 20 years? What do you want to accomplish before you die?
Choose 1 activity for each change that you can complete within the next 48 hours.
Expand your comfort zone. Do something that's completely out of character. Cut your hair, try public speaking, wear a makeup, try a Zumba class or sing while you're in the shower. Stepping out of your comfort zone will help you get used to facing your fears. You'll also get used to facing people's reactions when you do something they'd never expect you to do.
I hope this helps. Till next time!!!
Love and Blessing
LeToya
LeToya White is the founder of The Light of Day, INC. a research center that develops personal development and life tools that help people overcome the adversity of life. If you have moved to a new city…don't know many people, don’t have any friends, are stuck in a rut, feel trapped, performance is trending low, lost your drive for life, or have insecurities please feel free to contact me at lightofdayinc@yahoo.com for a free consultation or visit www.lightofdayinc.com.
Things to think about, Life will always have challenges just remember this too shall pass. Your ultimate goals and objectives you have set out for your life resolves around your fears, anxiety or low self-confidence. Do you have a sense for which one of these may be causing the hiccups you mention? If so you have the first step to getting out of your rut.
Many of my clients respond to their problem with this statement, “Every time I say to myself I need to make a change, it always backfires and I end up going one step forward, 500 steps back.”
Do you feel this way, if so you are not alone!
The truth is when you get the feelings that your goals are impossible to reach, do you believe it has to do with the goals you have selected or with uncertainties/fears/negative challenges that impact your belief that you will get there?
When this happens you need to try harder to put yourself in situations that will create opportunity of change. Not only will doing something for change and the enjoyment of it help get out of your mental rut; it will give you a new opportunity to form relationships and friends… breaking down your fear boosting self confidence are all supported by the willingness to change.
I look forward from hearing from you!!!
Love and Blessing
LeToya
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