Dear Friend,
If you are feeling confused, anxiety, suffer from self-doubt and do not know what you want to do with your life you are experiencing an identity crisis. If you are in your twenty something it will be defined as a quarterlife crisis. If you are 30 or older it will be defined as a midlife crisis. No matter the age difference this phrase crisis is the same challenges and setbacks no matter what decade you experience it in.
You feel as if you are experiencing a mental breakdown, you are face with pressure of not knowing what you want to do with your life. You lack direction, faith in yourself; you feel empty and like you are just floating along in life, going through the motions. I know this is how I felt when I was 24 years old.
I was unhappy, confused, and stressed out.
I wanted to know what my purpose in life was. Why Am I here?
What does God want me to do and be for this life time?
I had a lot of unanswered questions. I felt like a failure because I was so very lost and confused. And no one understood what I was going through.
After having my second daughter all of a sudden I felt lots of pressure to do and be more. I did not feel like a grown-up because I was still learning about myself. I was reading self help books, going to workshops and pursuing what I thought I wanted to do for a profession.
As my mind started to renew itself and I started to perceive the world a little different. I new I had to learn how to become more independent, assertive and that it would be a lifetime of self discovery that would eventually put me in the place I needed to be in order to live out my passion.
As I search, trying to figure out what makes me tick, what makes me laugh, what makes me excited and my heart sing. I slowly begin to see where I fit into in this world.
The fact is to live and find your passion you will need to have a willingness to learn, be open-minded, to seek and go place you never gone before. All it takes is a yes and a commitment to take control of your life and create it into a life you love.
So, now I know you are wondering “well” how can I do this?
Finding yourself is an enlightening experience. You become self-sufficient and do things for others without expectations of something in return. You are no longer needy and become utterly grateful for all the things people have done for you in the past.
Finding yourself is a time of harmony because you develop the philosophy or belief system that will carry you throughout the rest of your life. You learn how to love yourself and who you are.
First, create your own life's life timeline. To do this start by writing down all of your major goals in your life that you feel you want to achieve. Next, write down the events in your life that have already happened that you believe have affected you and have made you who you are now. This isn't an exercise in wallowing but one about clarification and identification of issues that might be hampering your present potential and the blossoming of your true sense of self.
Second, ask yourself some simple questions, like:
If I could do one thing for the rest of my life, what would it be?
What do I love to do?
What would I do, even if I didn't get paid to do it?
Dig deep within yourself, think about what you love to do with your spare time, and whether it's something you could do full time. You don't have to be good at it, and it doesn't have to make you money. Just think about what you like to do.
Third, try doing a few new things. Take up some extra hobbies, try writing or singing; just get out there and try all kinds of things. It will help you see what you do like doing and what you don't; and hopefully, your passion.
Last, avoid discussing your options with too many outside sources. While the input of trusted loved ones could be helpful, asking too many people could also cause you to doubt yourself and not find your passion
Doing a job and being passionate about the work that you do are two different things. Many people struggle to find passion for their jobs or their work and worry that they're not happy in their careers. Learn how to find a passion for work to fully satisfy your passion at your job every day.
I hope this helps. Till next time!!!
Love and Blessing
LeToya
LeToya White is the founder of The Light of Day, INC. a research center that develops personal development and life tools that help people overcome the adversity of life. If you have moved to a new city…don't know many people, don’t have any friends, are stuck in a rut, feel trapped, performance is trending low, lost your drive for life, or have insecurities please feel free to contact me at lightofdayinc@yahoo.com for a free consultation or visit www.lightofdayinc.com.
Things to think about, Life will always have challenges just remember this too shall pass. Your ultimate goals and objectives you have set out for your life resolves around your fears, anxiety or low self-confidence. Do you have a sense for which one of these may be causing the hiccups you mention? If so you have the first step to getting out of your rut.
Many of my clients respond to their problem with this statement, “Every time I say to myself I need to make a change, it always backfires and I end up going one step forward, 500 steps back.”
Do you feel this way, if so you are not alone!
The truth is when you get the feelings that your goals are impossible to reach, do you believe it has to do with the goals you have selected or with uncertainties/fears/negative challenges that impact your belief that you will get there?
When this happens you need to try harder to put yourself in situations that will create opportunity of change. Not only will doing something for change and the enjoyment of it help get out of your mental rut; it will give you a new opportunity to form relationships and friends… breaking down your fear boosting self confidence are all supported by the willingness to change.
I look forward from hearing from you!!!
Love and Blessing
LeToya
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