Dear Friend,
Humans naturally strive for growth and love. Unfulfilled needs create anxiety, frustration, anger, and resentment. (As the saying goes, resentment is the poison we take to punish them.) What you need to become aware of is that your needs could be at different levels at a time.
For instances our basic needs consist of survival: food, shelter, and air. Other needs consist of self actualization, self-esteem, social acceptance & security.
Many people have other needs such as the need to paint, manage property or become political involved. Others may simply need recognition for what they are doing, so they can get satisfaction and strive to do more.
The bottom line is we must learn to pin point our needs in order to live and feel happier and more at peace. It is important to realize the values of your unmeet needs and to understand that it is a justifiable use of your time to address them.
To do this
First, acknowledge the fact that you have to start where you are, meeting your own needs first. No one can do this for you. YOU ONLY KNOW THE CONTEXT OF LIFE THAT MAKES YOUR HEART SINGS
Here’s a short list to get you started to identify concepts of needs you may desire to embrace into your lifestyle. Choose three to work into your daily life.
Personal needs
Get fit
Get therapy
Keep a creative journal
Quit smoking
Find a room of your own
Dress better
Write/paint/create
Live without fear
Relationship needs
Create a weekly date night
Go out with friends more
Address issues with parents/sibling/in-laws
Seek romance after divorce
Learn to depend less on your husband or partner
Call family members
Teach your kids a skill
Decorate bedroom
Get marriage counseling
Reconnect with friends
Work/ Community
Go freelance
Start a company
Run for public office
Volunteer at a homeless shelter
Write your memoir
Donate your professional skills-therapy, accounting, copywriting, teaching, public speaking
Begin a writing career
Earn a professional certificate/or degree
Take a career seminar
Raise hourly rates
Transition to a new career
Re-enter the workforce
Do what you love to do
Develop social skills
When you are ready, write down what you want for yourself. Don’t worry if you’ll do these things is unclear at this time. Don’t even worry if you only have a general idea about the things you want to create in your life. When you step out of your comfort zone and try new things life will make you aware of other things you may want to try.
Exercise time!!!
List Top 3 needs
Personal needs
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Relationship needs
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Work/Community needs
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Ask yourself:
Is this truly an important goal for me?
Personal yes or no
Relationship yes or no
Work/Community yes or no
Am I pulling up short? Am I ready to commit? If not now, when?
Remember that, no great or significant change happens quickly or easily. You must stay committed. But there is a powerful force for change deep inside you waiting to be born.
I hope this helps. Till next time!!!
Love and Blessing
LeToya
LeToya White is the founder of The Light of Day, INC. a research center that develops personal development and life tools that help people overcome the adversity of life. If you have moved to a new city…don't know many people, don’t have any friends, are stuck in a rut, feel trapped, performance is trending low, lost your drive for life, or have insecurities please feel free to contact me at lightofdayinc@yahoo.com for a free consultation or visit http://www.lightofdayinc.com/.
Things to think about, Life will always have challenges just remember this too shall pass. Your ultimate goals and objectives you have set out for your life resolves around your fears, anxiety or low self-confidence. Do you have a sense for which one of these may be causing the hiccups you mention? If so you have the first step to getting out of your rut.
Many of my clients respond to their problem with this statement, “Every time I say to myself I need to make a change, it always backfires and I end up going one step forward, 500 steps back.”
Do you feel this way, if so you are not alone!
The truth is when you get the feelings that your goals are impossible to reach, do you believe it has to do with the goals you have selected or with uncertainties/fears/negative challenges that impact your belief that you will get there?
When this happens you need to try harder to put yourself in situations that will create opportunity of change. Not only will doing something for change and the enjoyment of it help get out of your mental rut; it will give you a new opportunity to form relationships and friends… breaking down your fear boosting self confidence are all supported by the willingness to change.
I look forward from hearing from you!!!
Love and Blessing LeToya
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