Dear Friend,
Sometimes in life we are fortunate enough to find our purpose, but a way to fulfill that purpose isn't always necessarily provided with your purpose. This is when you have to take a look at your belief systems.
Belief systems are important because they affect our life circumstances, what one thinks and feel becomes their reality.
My question to you is. Who is doing the thinking for you?
What we believe and what we are told to believe often become enmeshed in our heads. Often, we are unaware of all our beliefs until we stop, think, and actually write them down.
For example, you’d write, “I believe I should be financial secure before starting a family or I believe money come easily when you give freely. The question is which statement or belief is true for you.
Or!
Your beliefs could be someone else belief such as, “My parents believe I should have kids before I turn 30 years old. My parents say, “Money only comes from hard work.”
I had to learn to recognize that many of the beliefs I would speak aloud wasn’t really my thinking at all not actual, my personal truths, it took a while but I learn to rid the beliefs of my childhood and of other people that did not fit into my personal adult life. I was now creating for myself.
To create a life the key things that you must pay close attention to are:
1. Discover Your Purpose (What you love)
2. Right down a list of ways that you can work in your purpose
3. Create a plan of action
4. Execute your plan
5. Enjoy yourself
Here are some examples of beliefs:
My family believes in traditional religions and has no tolerant for anything else.
As I have learned to grow in find my true self. I am not dedicated to naming my self as a traditional religion name such a Baptist or Methodist etc. I go to a different variety of churches it all depends on the topic at hand. (I am in the season of learning and seeking the word therefore I go where my spirit get the most growth.
I am in tune with my higher self and think of myself as spiritual and not rooted into a name. My name doesn’t define my relationship with God. We all have a relationship with God but take different routines to get there and terms of how to grow spiritual.
For example, I love Joyce Meyers. I love Creflo Dollar. I love TD Jakes. I love Paula White and I also love Silva Browne, Gandhi, Buddha, Louise Hay, and Dr. Wayne Dyer. They all teach me something that gets me closer to God I just prefer not to label myself. That’s an example of my belief. I don’t go to a certain church because that’s where my family or friends go. I think for myself and move forwards from my own decisions.
It is now time to reframe the beliefs that are not in line with who you truly are and what you truly want. These beliefs keep you in the life you are expected to live, rather then the one you want to live.
To start make a list of 6 ways to finish the sentence “I should”.
For example, “I should look for a job that is aligned with my interest and talents. Then read each one beginning each sentence with “I should...”
Then ask why?
You see, Louise Hay explain in her book You Can Heal Your Life. That she believes that “should” is one of the most damaging words in our language. Every time we use should, we are, in effect, saying “wrong.” either we are wrong or we are going to be wrong. I don't think we need more wrongs in our life. We need to have more freedom of choice. In her opinion she would like to take the word should and remove it from the vocabulary forever. I agree totally! Louise believes “should” can be replaced with the word “could”. Could gives us choices, and we are never wrong.
Now I would like you to reread the list “one item at a time”, except this time to begin each sentence by saying, “If I really wanted to, I could____.” Then ask Why haven't you?
The Point of this exercise is to make you become aware of people pleasing or in other words the expectations of others:
The bottom line is, “You never want to do this you were only trying to please other people.”
With this exercise you have the “Free Will to “Release the feeling of “being wrong” because they are not fitting someone else's standards.”
Self Belief Affirmations:
I release the pattern in me that created this. I am at peace. I am worthwhile.
I give my self permission to change.
I easily and comfortably release that which I no longer need I life.
I believe in my own power to change.
I move forward, free from the past. I am safe.
I trust the process of life.
I forgive and release the past. I move into joy.
Credit to: Exercise and affirmations. Louise Hay You Can Heal Your Life, 1999 and Louise Hay and Friends Modern-Day Miracles, 2010.
I hope this helps. Till next time!!!
Love and Blessing
LeToya
LeToya White is the founder of The Light of Day, INC. a research center that develops personal development and life tools that help people overcome the adversity of life. If you have moved to a new city…don't know many people, don’t have any friends, are stuck in a rut, feel trapped, performance is trending low, lost your drive for life, or have insecurities please feel free to contact me at lightofdayinc@yahoo.com for a free consultation or visit http://www.lightofdayinc.com/.
Things to think about, Life will always have challenges just remember this too shall pass. Your ultimate goals and objectives you have set out for your life resolves around your fears, anxiety or low self-confidence. Do you have a sense for which one of these may be causing the hiccups you mention? If so you have the first step to getting out of your rut.
Many of my clients respond to their problem with this statement, “Every time I say to myself I need to make a change, it always backfires and I end up going one step forward, 500 steps back.”
Do you feel this way, if so you are not alone!
The truth is when you get the feelings that your goals are impossible to reach, do you believe it has to do with the goals you have selected or with uncertainties/fears/negative challenges that impact your belief that you will get there?
When this happens you need to try harder to put yourself in situations that will create opportunity of change. Not only will doing something for change and the enjoyment of it help get out of your mental rut; it will give you a new opportunity to form relationships and friends… breaking down your fear boosting self confidence are all supported by the willingness to change.
I look forward from hearing from you!!!
Love and Blessing LeToya
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