Dear Friend,
Quarterlife Crisis and life adversity are a sure way to wake your conscious up. You begin to question your destiny. Your life choices. Your meaning and purpose of life. You may feel queasy, uneasy, striving for more out of life.
You start to say, “Is this all there is to life?”
Unfortunately, you can’t overcome this awkwardness until you figure out what it is that you want to accomplish in this lifetime. Last month we discuss different varieties to seek the things you desired.
This month we will continue, only adding some affirmation and visualizing exercises to help you create the life you want to create.
The first step involves Ridding Expectations.
Expectations are important because it’s the biggest roadblock we encounter. It cause pressure and stress when we feel we need to be or do certain things. We all have many expectations about life and ourselves. Some are positive and some are negative. Depending upon which we choose to focus upon will determine what shall manifest in our lives.
For example,
I’m supposed to marry and have kids by age 30.
I’m supposed to stay in the city I grew up in because that’s where my support system is.
I’m supposed to make all A’s on my school work.
I’m supposed to grow up to be a doctor or school teacher because that‘s what my parents are.
I’m supposed to be a size 5.
I’m supposed to dress a certain way.
I’m supposed to exceed what my mother achieved but not question or doubt her choices.
Why? Why? Why?
Why are you supposed to do these things?
I’ll tell you why.
Because other people told you that this is what you are supposed to do. What would happen if you did not follow their demands and dared to live life as your heart desired? You would be extremely happy and guilty thinking they are mad or disappointed in you.
Well, if you think this way you will never lead the life you desire. Worried about what other people think of you cause much unhappiness in your life. Break the cycle. Do what you love and care less about what other people think of you.
The bottom line is we must understand that other people's expectations about us directly and immediately affect our behaviour is a vital component in understanding how we can come to be quite different people across various social situations. The message here is our behaviour is partly derived from how others view us.
The key is to be your authentic self and don’t change who you are and how you act just because you feel you are expected to act or behave a certain way in the present of certain people.
Expectations Affirmation
I love myself. I know that only good awaits me at every turn.
I let go of all Expectations.
I am pleased with who I am in this moment and I am willing to change to become an even better me.
I expect good things from life. Life always brings me positive experiences.
I believe in miracles. Miracles happen to me frequently.
I hope this helps. Till next time!!!
Love and Blessing
LeToya
LeToya White is the founder of The Light of Day, INC. a research center that develops personal development and life tools that help people overcome the adversity of life. If you have moved to a new city…don't know many people, don’t have any friends, are stuck in a rut, feel trapped, performance is trending low, lost your drive for life, or have insecurities please feel free to contact me at lightofdayinc@yahoo.com for a free consultation or visit http://www.lightofdayinc.com/.
Things to think about, Life will always have challenges just remember this
too shall pass. Your ultimate goals and objectives you have set out for your life resolves around your fears, anxiety or low self-confidence. Do you have a sense for which one of these may be causing the hiccups you mention? If so you have the first step to getting out of your rut.
Many of my clients respond to their problem with this statement, “Every time I say to myself I need to make a change, it always backfires and I end up going one step forward, 500 steps back.”
Do you feel this way, if so you are not alone!
The truth is when you get the feelings that your goals are impossible to reach, do you believe it has to do with the goals you have selected or with uncertainties/fears/negative challenges that impact your belief that you will get there?
When this happens you need to try harder to put yourself in situations that will create opportunity of change. Not only will doing something for change and the enjoyment of it help get out of your mental rut; it will give you a new opportunity to form relationships and friends… breaking down your fear boosting self confidence are all supported by the willingness to change.
I look forward from hearing from you!!!
Love and Blessing LeToya
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